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Notes on parenting, from family therapy.

There’s a ton of pressure on parents and caregivers to meet every need. Sometimes shame around not being able to do so prevents families from reaching out for the support they need.

But here’s the thing- parents aren’t meant to meet every need. You can’t soften every blow or soothe every disappointment- but you can listen and validate.

Kids with caregivers who give them permission to feel big feelings and support in managing those feelings are kids with tools to able to become adults who can regulate emotions and find resiliency in the face of crisis.

If you feel overwhelmed by your child’s big feelings or find yourself battling shame in your parenting, checking in and getting a little support from a therapist can make a huge difference.

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Trauma from the past is always part of the present.

If someone has a HUGE response to something small… Consider: it may be a trauma response. 

If so, logic won’t help. 

Care will. Care soothes. Care calms. Care grounds.

Just recognizing and gently naming the presence of trauma can build trust and reduce conflict. 

Try the magic phrase of validation: “Of course…”

Of course you feel sad. 

Of course that’s frustrating.

Of course you are upset right now.

Parents are not meant to meet every need.

We are meant to learn to self-soothe, which we can’t learn if all our needs are met  and our problems fixed.

Parents and partners  don’t need to offer resolution. Just awareness and validation.

Validation only counts if it is authentic. 

Lecture by: Steve Call, PhD

Notes by: Lindsay Braman

Trigger Warnings: Helpful or Harmful for Trauma Survivors?
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