Interpersonal neurobiology

External boundaries are where we bump up against each other (like setting boundaries around our time or how we allow others to treat us), while internal boundaries are where we bump up against ourselves in ways that bring dissonance between competing desires (like wanting to take on a new project but knowing we can’t don’t have the resources to complete it). In this illustration, I tease out some of the nuances between internal and external boundaries.

This simple illustration is meant to be a visual representation of something that can be kind of hard to understand about therapy: it’s okay to …

Needs that are ignored or unable to be met due to lack of resources do not go away – instead, they often become all-consuming until …