If you’ve avoided recovery because giving up the only-ways-you-know-to-survive feels overwhelming, know that the goal of good therapy is not “stopping certain behaviors” – it’s SO MUCH MORE.
Good therapy can hold our ambivalence about whether or not we actually want to make changes. It can help us be curious about experimenting with new ways to cope. Therapy often helps us develop a wider variety of ways to self soothe that we can fall back on, and it helps grow our capacity to choose with mindfulness. Good therapy also teaches us to have compassion on ourselves when we make choices we later wish we hadn’t – and, in doing so, it can prevent a shame spiral if we do make choices to self-soothe in harmful ways.
Note that there *are* situations in which eliminating a negative coping skill is a priority in treatment in order to prevent imminent harm to self, other, or criminal justice implications – but good treatment never removes a coping method without replacing it with extra resources (such as extended support services or medication as appropriate).
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