parenting and trauma

Sketch notes on Parenting, Trauma, and Childhood Adversity

Instead of questioning (“how could you?”) or punishing (“how dare you!”) look for the entry point for empathy (“oh, of course you…”) When someone – especially kids but inclusive of us Adults- has a HUGE reaction to a minor thing- the reaction probably is not actually about the thing. More often, it’s fear, trauma, or…

PSA: Imposter Syndrome isn’t a Mental Health Diagnosis

The phrase “Imposter Syndrome” gets tossed around a lot these days, but did you know it isn’t in any diagnostic manual? it’s just a name we’ve given to- apparently- a rather diverse range of experiences. I originally posted this with a caption (included in this post, below the download) related to how hard it is…

Therapist resources for discussing and teaching about Magical Thinking

Magical Thinking

Magical thinking is a normal phase in childhood in which we think that our thoughts- or totally random, unrelated events- can change the future. Lots of us hang onto just a bit of magical thinking into adulthood and that’s not necessarily a bad thing (confession: I’m calling myself out a bit on coffee mug magic!).…

lindsay braman trauma avocado teaching model

Trauma Recovery Avocado Model

  Trauma and trauma recovery look different for everyone, but generally, there’s a deep hardened core and a bunch of squishy stuff, all held together by a peel juuuust thick enough to keep us composed unless something comes along to smash us. A lot of times, we think the “pit” is in the past, and…

Hand Model of the Brain – A Doodle-Illustrated Learning Resource

    This little video explains why it’s SO HARD to calm down once we’re set off. Make the motions with your own hand to get a sense of how an amygdala overwhelmed by fear, danger, or any overwhelming emotion can blow up, making us seem to “flip our lid” and act in ways we…

Things Trauma Survivors May Need: A Messy Visual

. Messy. Accurate. People are often surprised to learn that most of trauma therapy isn’t actually talking directly about trauma- it involves getting to know ourselves and our needs without judgment, learning to extend genuine kindness and care inward, and growing skills to advocate for what we need to thrive. The concept behind this doodle…

Sketchnote: Genogram Symbol Key + Printable Flashcards

JUMP TO DOWNLOADS When I was first introduced to family therapy in graduate school, I immediately fell in love with the visual language of genograms. Since making this genogram chart at that time, this graphic has become one of my most shared sketchnotes across multiple platforms. Scroll to the bottom of this post to purchase…

the impact of stress on window of tolerance - Illustration by Lindsay Braman

The Impact of Stress on Emotional Window of Tolerance

  Our window of tolerance refers to how much we can handle, emotionally, before shutting down or blowing up (Emotional states called “hypoarousal” and “hyperarousal” by brain researchers.) Healthy brains in optimal circumstances have a big arch that helps us stay present to listen, learn, and grow even when difficult stuff is happening. The normal…

Maladaptive Overcontrol is a phrase that validates and sums up so much of this tension: some control is good, but when it causes distress and relational isolation, it may be time to access some resources to get help

Maladaptive Overcontrol: Illustrated (Plus Free Handwriting Font Downloads)

  (Click here to jump on down to free font downloads) An intentionally messy visual about the opposite: maladaptive over-control (sometimes called maladaptive perfectionism). We all love doing things well. “Getting it right” earns us praise and minimizes negative consequences. But what if our existence becomes more and more wrapped up in getting *everything* right?…

an image showing three inset circles. The inner wheel is basic emotions- happy, sad, disgust, etc- the middle circle contains feeling words- despair, disappointment, awe, etc. The outer circle contains words that describe a sensation that someone might feel in their body if they were feeling the corresponding emotion.

Emotion-Sensation Feeling Wheel Handout by Lindsay Braman

> JUMP TO DOWNLOAD <   The Emotion-Sensation Feeling Wheel   WHAT IS IT: It’s an adaptation of the “feelings wheel” that many therapists and educators use to help people learn to better recognize and name their emotions, adapted to include common body-based expressions of emotions. HOW THE EMOTION-SENSATION   WHEEL IS DIFFERENT: The two…