Can we take a moment to collectively acknowledge how hard this is right now? With everything going on, we need people more than ever, but for many of us, connecting has never been harder.
It’s ok if this is hard. It’s self care- and real self care always has a cost. Choosing one or two of these to intentionally practice each day- even in just one relationship a day- may help preserve important relationships, build trust and intimacy, and keep the loneliness of surviving a pandemic just a little less overwhelming.
If you want to learn more about becoming a good steward of relationships, check out the Resilient Leaders Project certificate from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology, where you can learn more from the brilliant Kate Davis who initially presented this list in a zoom talk on resilience early in the Pandemic.
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1. Check-in and reach out (a person of color with a ponytail is pictured looking at a person shown on the screen of her phone, with a speech bubble saying “I remember you said…” )
2. Anticipate needs (a spiral notebook day planner shows a two-week calendar, the section labeled “this week” has very few events but the section labeled “next week” has many events and some! It’s, indicating lots of commitments)
3. Ask for help (a person with a headband is shown speaking to a person on the screen of their laptop. The person outside the computer has a speech bubble that says “it’s just so much”)
4. Draw on collective identity (an indigenous person is shown drumming on a drum, while in the background their TV screen shows an “online drum circle”)
5. Set and keep the boundaries (a smart phone screen is shown. On the screen an incoming message is shown saying “you up? I’m in a huge mess!” with the time showing 11:40PM, And an outbound reply 10 minutes later says “I hear you. Let’s talk in the a.m.”)
6. Engage conflict with care (a white person in a polo shirt is shown talking on the phone, his speech bubble says “when you… I feel”)